Sex party

Group sex (Redirected from Sex party (group sex)) For other meanings, see Group sex (disambiguation).

For various uses of the word "orgy", see Orgy. "Swinging party" redirects here. For the song, see Swingin Party. Peter Fendi, 1835 Group sex is sexual behavior involving more than two participants.
Group sex can occur between people of all sexual orientations and genders. Group sex also occurs in populations of non-human animals such as bonobo apes and chimpanzees.
Group sex most commonly takes place in a private sex party or semi-public swinger gathering, but may also take place at massage parlors or brothels or, in some jurisdictions, at purpose-built locations such as sex clubs. In places where non-monogamous sex is taboo or illegal, group sex may take place in private or clandestine locations including homes, hotel rooms, or private clubs.

Fantasies of group sex are extremely common among both men and women, and group sex is a subgenre in pornographic films. TermsEdit Depiction of group sex in the Kama Sutra Illustration from the Kama Sutra In principle, any sexual behavior performed by more than two people can be referred to as group sex, but various terms are used to describe particular acts or combinations of people. Many swingers argue that non-swingers have conflated the terms because of lack of understanding and that there are distinct differences among the terms with specific meanings as to number, intent, sexual orientation, and familiarity of the persons involved.

Circle jerk Group masturbation among men, usually sitting in somewhat of a circle formation. Daisy chain Group of participants perform cunnilingus or fellatio on each other in a circular formation, permitting each participant to both give and receive oral sex simultaneously. Gang bang A number of people performing sex acts on one person, either in turn or at the same time. Threesome or three-way Three people all having sexual relations, not necessarily simultaneously. Not to be confused with ménage à trois (literally, "household of three"). Foursome or four-way Sex between four people. Not to be confused with ménage à quatre (literally, "household of four"). Double penetration When a person is entered or penetrated in the vagina and/or anus by two people at the same time. This usually is when one enters the anus while another enters the vagina, although it does also refer to two simultaneous penetrations in the same orifice. Spintrian Term used by Suetonius to describe sexual group practices indulged in by the emperor Tiberius on Capri[1] Monogamous Group Sex or Same Room Sex (a.k.a. Soft Swapping) Couples engaging in sexual activity in the same room but in separate pairs, without any swapping of partners or other major sexual activity between couples. PrevalenceEdit Fantasies of group sex are extremely common among both men and women. In major studies, between 54 and 88% of people fantasize about watching others have sex, between 40 and 42% fantasize about being watched by others, and between 39 and 72% fantasize about bondage.[2] Many forms of sexual behavior were reported by Kinsey's subjects, but the official Kinsey Reports web site does not mention threesomes or group sex in the summary of Kinsey's findings. Types of sex partyEdit Illustration of a four-some by Édouard-Henri Avril Illustration of an orgy by Édouard-Henri Avril A sex party is a gathering at which sexual activity takes place. Sex parties may be organized to enable people to engage in casual sexual activity or for swinging couples or people interested in group sex to meet, but any gathering where sexual activity is anticipated can be called a sex party. Sex parties, under various names, have been a common focus of moral panics fed by media reports claiming that such parties are prevalent, or growing in prevalence, especially among teenagers.[3] There are number of types of sex parties: Swinger party/gatheringEdit A swinger party or partner-swapping party is a gathering at which individuals or couples in a committed relationship can engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.[4] Swinging can take place in various contexts, ranging from a spontaneous sexual activity at an informal social gathering of friends to a regular social gathering in a sex club (or swinger club) or residence.[5] Swinger parties may involve various group sex activities. Partners can engage in penetrative sex, known as "full swap", or choose to "soft swap" in which they engage only in non-penetrative sex. New swinging couples often choose a soft swap before they are comfortable with a full swap, although many couples stay soft swap for personal reasons.[6] "Soft swinging" is when a couple engages in sexual activities with only each other while other couples perform sex acts in the immediate vicinity.[7] Technically this is a form of exhibitionism rather than "group sex" per se. Key partyEdit A key party is a form of swinger party, in which male partners place their car and house keys into a common bowl or bag on arriving. At the end of the evening the female partners would randomly select keys from the bowl and leave with that key's owner.[8] Rainbow partyEdit A rainbow party is an urban legend spread from the early 2000s. At these events, allegedly increasingly popular among adolescents, females wearing various shades of lipstick take turns fellating males in sequence, leaving multiple colours on their penises.[9] Rainbow parties were covered on The Oprah Winfrey Show in 2003, and became the subject of a juvenile novel called Rainbow Party.[9] On May 27, 2010 the television program The Doctors discussed the topic with dozens of teens, parents, and professionals. However, sex researchers and adolescent health care professionals have found no evidence for the existence of rainbow parties, and as such attribute the spread of the stories to a moral panic.[9] OrgyEdit An orgy is a gathering where guests freely engage in open and unrestrained sexual activity or group sex; and a bunga bunga orgy is an orgy in which participants have sex underwater, such as in a swimming pool or a hot tub.[10] Sexual positions and combinations possible only in group sexEdit Main article: List of sex positions for group sex Initialism codesEdit Peter Fendi portrayed group sex in lithography, c. 1834 A system of initialisms has evolved to describe the variety of group sex arrangements. These codes can appear in erotic literature and film descriptions, member profiles in online communities, and personal ads. These codes consist of arrangements of the letters M (for male) and F (for female). Adjacent letters are sometimes used to signify sexual contact between the participants represented by those letters, though this does not necessarily mean there is no contact between the other participants. For example, MMF would signify a ménage à trois of two men and one woman in which the center male has sexual contact with the other male and the female, and in which it is not specified whether there is contact between the female and the other male. MFMF (situation pictured in photo to right), on the other hand, implies no same-sex contact. Variations on this system exist that use case to convey more information. Within the BDSM and D/s subcultures, upper and lower case letters can signify dominant (or top) and submissive (or bottom). Daisy chainEdit A daisy chain refers to sexual relations among three or more people, with each person both performing and receiving oral sex simultaneously.[11] Some sources consider only groups of five or more people to be a daisy chain.[12] Self-evidently, for a closed daisy chain to be entirely heterosexual there must be an even number of participants with equal numbers of males and females. An odd number of participants would result in two people having to connect "both ways" to complete the chain.[13][14] Thus, in an “erotic foursome or partie-carrée”, “two couples ... form a chain or Maltese cross carefully alternating man and woman”.[15] "The matter of ... erotic or spintrian chains ("daisy-chains")",[16] i.e, "of "spintries" or erotic human chains, ... has been taken to ... permutational development in the appendix of postures to the well-known Manual of Classical Erotology (1824) of the Fichtean philosopher, Friedrich Karl Forberg, and in a Swedish work, Ju fler vi är tillsammans (“The More the Merrier”), by a schoolteacher, Ragnar Aaslund, published in 1966 and intended frankly as a manual of group-sex."[17] BukkakeEdit Main article: Bukkake Bukkake is a group sex practice where multiple men ejaculate onto the face or body of a female or male subject. At the end of the process, the subject may drink the semen, called gokkun. Its first filming is credited to adult filmmaker Kazuhiko Matsumoto in 1998. Bukkake originally became a pornography trend because of the mandatory porn mosaic in Japan. Since the directors could not show penetration they had to figure out new, visually appealing ways to approach sex acts that would satisfy the audience without violating Japanese law. HealthEdit As with all sexual activity, the relative risks of group sex depend on the specific activities engaged in, although having a large number of sexual partners increases one's risk of exposure to sexually transmitted infections (STIs). From the mid-1980s there was lobbying against gay bathhouses blaming them for the spread of STIs, in particular HIV, and this forced their closure in some jurisdictions, particularly in the United States.[18][19] Sociologist Stephen O. Murray, writes that, "there was never any evidence presented that going to bathhouses was a risk-factor for contracting AIDS."[20] In other countries, fears about the spread of STIs have prompted the closing of bathhouses—with their private rooms—in favour of sex clubs, in which all sexual activity takes place in the open, and can be observed by monitors whose job it is to enforce safer sex practices.[21] Proponents point out that venues where group sex takes place often provide condoms, dental dams, latex gloves, lubricants and other items for safer sex. Bathhouses in particular are a major source of safer sex information—they provide pamphlets and post safer sex posters prominently (often on the walls of each room as well as in the common areas), provide free condoms and lubricants, and often require patrons to affirm that they will only have safer sex on the premises.[22][23][24][25] Corporate involvementEdit A 1996 sexual harassment case filed against Mitsubishi Motor Manufacturing of America by the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) highlighted corporate involvement by Mitsubishi in sex parties arranged by managers and other employees.[26] In the mediaEdit Sensational media reports about the prevalence of sex parties, especially among young people, appear with some regularity. In the early 1950s, for example, it was alleged that teenage girls, mainly throughout the Southern and Midwestern United States were forming "non-virgin clubs", in which they organized and held sex orgies with reports of couples being paired off by drawing numbers from a hat. These claims were investigated and debunked.[27][28][29][30] Several stories of this type arose in the US in 2003. In New York, rumors began that teens had been taking days off from school to attend "hooky parties" while their parents were at work. One school even suspended a group of girls for allegedly skipping school to attend such a party. They were refused the right to return to school until each had submitted to a medical examination for sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy and school officials were allowed to examine the results. The New York Civil Liberties Union filed a federal lawsuit against the school[31] on behalf of the girls and won a settlement which included monetary damages and a change in the school district's policy.[32] Similar stories concerning teenagers using gel bracelets as coupons or signals for sex also arose at the time, with a similar lack of corroborating evidence.[33] See alsoEdit Bacchanalia List of sex positions for group sex Orgia (ancient Greek rite) Orgy NotesEdit ^ Forberg, Friedrich Karl (1963). Manual of classical erotology (De figuris Veneris). Medical Press of New York. p. 233. ^ Howell, Teresa M.; Cooper, Barry S.; Williams, Kevin M.; Spetch, Ashley; Yuille, John C. "The Association Between Sexual Fantasies, Behaviors and Pornography in Undergraduates - Poster presented at the 112th annual meeting of the American Psychological Association" (PDF). ^ Daly, Susan (Jun 26, 2010). "Is your teen sending secret sex signals?". Irish Independent. Retrieved 16 November 2010. ^ Bergstrand, Curtis; Blevins Williams, Jennifer (2000-10-10). "Today's Alternative Marriage Styles: The Case of Swingers". Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality 3. Retrieved 2010-01-24. ^ "Advice on Swingers' Clubs". Swinging Heaven. Retrieved 5 October 2012. ^ Wojick, Helen (Sep 2011). "What is a Swinger?". The Swinger Blog. Retrieved April 15, 2012. ^ from the Lifestyle Definitions page on Swinger Social Network ^ Bell, Robert (1971). Social Deviance: A Substantive Analysis. University of Michigan: Dorsey Press. p. 74. ISBN 978-0-256-01663-5. ^ a b c Lewin, Tamar (June 30, 2005). "Are These Parties for Real?". The New York Times. Retrieved August 27, 2009. ^ http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2010-11-07/silvio-berlusconis-bunga-bunga-parties/ Berlusconi’s "Bunga Bunga Orgies"—Daily Beast 7 November 2010 ^ A dictionary of slang: D ^ The Swinging Life - Vocabulary ^ "Are teen sex antics tall tales?". BBC News. 28 April 2005. Retrieved 2006-12-18. ^ Nigel Hawkes and Sam Lister (28 April 2005). "Teenage ‘daisy chain’ sex alert". The Times. Retrieved 2006-12-18. ^ Legman 1969, p. 307 ^ Legman 1969, p. 304 ^ Legman 1969, p. 305 ^ Gross, Jane (October 14, 1985). "Bathhouses reflect AIDS concerns". The New York Times. Retrieved 26 December 2006. At the St. Marks Baths, for the price of a locker or a room, patrons now get a free condom, enclosed in a package that bears the legend the contents of this envelope could save your life. ^ (Woods & Binson 2003) ^ (Murray 1996) ^ Woods, William J.; Diane Binson (2003). Gay Bathhouses and Public Health Policy. Haworth Press, ISBN 1-56023-273-0. ISBN 978-1-56023-273-5. Retrieved 10 July 2008. ^ Westerfelt, Alex (August 2005). "Bathhouse Norms: What goes on in the Bathhouse?". Healthy Living. Archived from the original on February 20, 2012. Retrieved 10 July 2008. ^ Bernstein, Sharon (March 23, 2004). "Rising Rate of HIV Infection Renews Bathhouse Debate". Los Angeles Times. Retrieved 10 July 2008. ^ "NHS to hold STI testing in gay sauna". Pink News. October 15, 2007. Retrieved 21 October 2009. ^ "QX journal article". QX Magazine London (QX) (758): 44. September 17, 2009. Retrieved 25 October 2009. ^ "Equal Employment Opportunity Commission v. Mitsubishi Motor Manufacturing of America Inc.", Adam J. Conti, LLC, Filing 96-1192, September 15, 1997 ^ Morin, Relmin (August 26, 1951). "'Non-Virgin Club' New Aspect of Teen-age Sex Misbehavior". Eugene Register-Guard. Retrieved 19 October 2012. ^ Cahn, Susan (2007). Sexual Reckonings: Southern Girls in a Troubling Age. Cambridge, MA. Harvard University Press. (p. 199) ISBN 978-0-674-02452-6 ^ Peril, Lynn (2002). Pink Think: Becoming a Woman in Many Uneasy Lessons. New York. W.W. Norton & Company Inc. (pp. 100-101) ISBN 0-393-32354-4 ^ "Mattoon, Illinois History 1950-1959". mattoonhistory.home.mschsi.com. Retrieved 2012-10-19. ^ "NYCLU Sues New York School Officials for Forcing Teen-Age Girls to Undergo Intrusive Medical Exams" (July 8, 2003). aclu.org. Retrieved February 2, 2007. ^ nyclu.org/case/doe-and-roe-v-reid ^ Mikkelson, Barbara (2003). "Sex Bracelets". snopes.com. Retrieved December 22, 2005. ReferencesEdit Legman, Gershon (1969). Oragenitalism : Oral Techniques in Genital Excitation. New York: The Julian Press Inc. Partridge, Burgo (1960). A History of Orgies. Talese, Gay (1980). Thy Neighbor's Wife. Adkins, Lesley and Adkins, Roy A. (1998). Handbook to Life in Ancient Greece ISBN 0-19-512491-X Alexander, Timothy Jay (2007). Hellenismos Today ISBN 978-1-4303-1427-1 Alexander, Timothy Jay (2007). A Beginner's Guide to Hellenismos ISBN 978-1-4303-2456-0 Burnet, John (2005). Early Greek Philosophy ISBN 1402197535 Dillon, Matthew (2002). Girls and Women in Classical Greek Religion ISBN 0-415-20272-8 Maffesoli, Michel (1993). The shadow of Dionysus: a contribution to the sociology of the orgy ISBN 978-0-7914-1239-8 Persson, Martin (1970). The Minoan-Mycenaean Religion and Its Survival in Greek Religion ISBN 0-8196-0273-6 Wilson, Nigel Guy Wilson (2005.) Encyclopedia of Ancient Greece ISBN 0-415-97334-1 Primetime May 18, 2006 "What Parents Don't Know About Their Teen Daughters' Sex Lives" (part of "The Secret Life of Teens") Primetime, July 21, 2005 Weill, Sabrina (2006). The Real Truth About Teens and Sex: From Hooking Up to Friends with Benefits – What Teens Are Thinking, Doing, and Talking About, and How to Help Them Make Smart Choices. New York: Perigee. ISBN 978-0-399-53280-1. External linksEdit Weinberg, Martin S.; Williams, Colin J. (December 1975). "Gay Baths and the Social Organization of Impersonal Sex". Social Problems 23 (2): 124–136. doi:10.1525/sp.1975.23.2.03a00020. JSTOR 799651. 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70 LOVE EXPRESSIONS

LOVE IS A GAME THAT TWO CAN PLAY AND BOTH WIN – EVA GABOR

LOVE IS THAT CONDITION IN WHICH THE HAPPINESS OF ANOTHER PERSON IS ESSENTIAL TO YOUR OWN - ROBERT A. HEINLEIN

LOVE IS LIKE THE WIND, YOU CAN'T SEE IT BUT YOU CAN FEEL IT - NICHOLAS SPARKS

THE GREATER THE LOVE, THE GREATER THE TRAGEDY WHEN IT'S OVER - NICHOLAS SPARKS

THERE IS ALWAYS SOME MADNESS IN LOVE. BUT THERE IS ALSO ALWAYS SOME REASON IN MADNESS - FRIEDRICH NIETZSCHE

LOVE IS NOT WHAT THE MIND THINKS BUT WHAT THE HEART FEELS – GREG EVANS

TO LOVE FOR THE SAKE OF BEING LOVED IS HUMAN, BUT TO LOVE FOR THE SAKE OF LOVING IS ANGELIC – ALPHONSE DE LEMARTINE

DO WHAT YOU LOVE AND THE MONEY WILL FOLLOW – MARSHA SINETAR

LIFE HAS TAUGHT US THAT LOVE DOES NOT CONSIST IN GAZING AT EACH OTHER, BUT LOOKING OUTWARD TOGETHER IN THE SAME DIRECTION – ANTOINE DE SAINT-EXUPERY

BE GLAD OF LIFE BECAUSE IT GIVES YOU THE CHANCE TO LOVE, TO WORK, TO PLAY AND TO LOOK UP AT THE STARS – HENRY VAN DYKE

LOVE AND EGGS ARE BEST WHEN THEY ARE FRESH - RUSSIAN PROVERB

LOVE MAKES THE TIME PASS. TIME MAKES LOVE PASS – FRENCH PROVERB

A WOMAN WHO PRETENDS TO LAUGH AT LOVE IS LIKE A CHILD WHO SINGS AT NIGHT WHEN HE IS AFRAID – ANONYMOUS

CHILDREN NEED LOVE, ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY DON'T DESERVE IT – ANONYMOUS

HE WHO TRIES TO FORGET A WOMAN, NEVER LOVED HER – ANONYMOUS

IT IS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST, THAN TO HAVE HATED AND WON – ANONYMOUS

IT'S MUCH EASIER TO TURN A FRIENDSHIP INTO LOVE, THAN LOVE INTO FRIENDSHIP – ANONYMOUS

LONELY IS A MAN WITHOUT LOVE – ANONYMOUS

LOVE CAN CURE HEARTBREAKS, MISFORTUNE, OR TRAGEDY. IT IS THE ETERNAL COMPANION – ANONYMOUS

LOVE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WHAT YOU ARE EXPECTING TO GET, IT'S WHAT YOU ARE EXPECTED TO GIVE ? WHICH IS EVERYTHING – ANONYMOUS

NO ONE IN LOVE IS FREE, OR WANTS TO BE – ANONYMOUS

REMEMBER THAT GREAT LOVE AND GREAT ACHIEVEMENTS INVOLVE GREAT RISK – ANONYMOUS

SOMETIMES A NEW LOVE COMES BETWEEN OLD FRIENDS. SOMETIMES THE BEST LOVE WAS THE ONE THAT WAS ALWAYS THERE – ANONYMOUS

THE HEART THAT LOVES IS ALWAYS YOUNG – ANONYMOUS

TO BE LOVED IS TO LIVE FOREVER IN SOMEONE'S HEART – ANONYMOUS

WE CAN DO NO GREAT THING, ONLY SMALL THINGS, WITH GREAT LOVE – ANONYMOUS

WE MAY GIVE WITHOUT LOVING, BUT WE CANNOT LOVE WITHOUT GIVING – ANONYMOUS

WHERE WE LOVE IS TRULY HOME; HOME THAT OUR FEET MAY LEAVE, BUT NOT OUR HEARTS – OLIVER WINDELL HOLMES

WITHOUT LOVE INTELLIGENCE IS DANGEROUS; WITHOUT INTELLIGENCE LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH – ANONYMOUS

THINGS ARE BEAUTIFUL IF YOU LOVE THEM - JEAN ANOUILH

LOVE SHOULD BE A VEHICLE ALLOWED TO TRAVEL WITHOUT LIMITATIONS - MARVIN J. ASHTON

IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO LOVE AND BE WISE - FRANCIS BACON

TRUE LOVE IS WHEN YOUR HEART AND YOUR MIND ARE SAYING THE SAME THING – LEANNA L. BARTRAM

LOVE THY NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF, BUT CHOOSE YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD - LOUISE BEAL

WE NEVER KNOW THE LOVE OF OUR PARENTS FOR US TILL WE HAVE BECOME PARENTS -HENRY WARD BEECHER

THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS TO DO IN THE WORLD ARE TO GET SOMETHING TO EAT, SOMETHING TO DRINK AND SOMEBODY TO LOVE YOU - BRENDAN BEHAN

LOVE LOOKS THROUGH A TELESCOPE; ENVY, THROUGH A MICROSCOPE - JOSH BILLINGS

AFTER OBSERVING THE LOVED AND THE UNLOVED, WE FOUND THE LOVED ONES RARELY TRIED TO MANIPULATE OTHERS - W. W. BROADBENT, MD, PHD

WHERE THERE IS GREAT LOVE, THERE ARE ALWAYS MIRACLES - WILLA SIBERT CATHER

BETTER TO LOVE AMISS THAN NOTHING TO HAVE LOVED - GEORGE CRABBE

OVERCOME THE DEVILS WITH A THING NAMED LOVE – BOB MARLEY

WHEN YOU SIT WITH A NICE GIRL FOR TWO HOURS, YOU THINK IT’S ONLY A MINUTE. BUT WHEN YOU SIT ON A HOT STOVE FOR A MINUTE, YOU THINK ITS TWO HOURS. THAT’S RELATIVITY – ALBERT EINSTEIN

LOVE IS COMPOSED OF A SINGLE SOUL INHABITING TWO BODIES – ARISTOTLE

THOUSANDS OF CANDLES CAN BE LIGHTED FROM A SINGLE CANDLE, AND THE LIFE OF THE CANDLE WILL NOT BE SHORTENED. HAPPINESS NEVER DECREASES BY BEING SHARED – BUDDHA

HATRED DOES NOT CEASE BY HATRED, BUT ONLY BY LOVE; THIS IS THE ETERNAL RULE – BUDDHA

EVER HAS IT BEEN THAT LOVE KNOWS NOT ITS OWN DEPTH UNTIL THE HOUR OF SEPARATION – KAHLIL GIBRAN

LIFE WITHOUT LOVE IS LIKE A TREE WITHOUT BLOSSOM AND FRUIT – KAHLIL GIBRAN

IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY, LET THEM GO, FOR IF THEY RETURN, THEY WERE ALWAYS YOURS. AND IF THEY DON’T, THEY NEVER WERE – KAHLIL GIBRAN

MY FATHER ALWAYS TOLD ME, "FIND A JOB YOU LOVE AND YOU'LL NEVER HAVE TO WORK A DAY IN YOUR LIFE." - JIM FOX

LOVE AND COUGH, CANNOT BE HID – GEORGE HERBERT  LOVE IS ABSOLUTE LOYALTY. PEOPLE FADE, LOOKS FADE, BUT LOYALTY NEVER FADES. YOU CAN DEPEND SO MUCH ON CERTAIN PEOPLE – SYLVESTER STALLONE

IF YOU WOULD BE LOVED, LOVE AND BE LOVABLE – BENJAMIN FRANKLIN

THE COURSE OF TRUE LOVE NEVER DID RUN SMOOTH – WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE

THERE IS ONE HAPPINESS IN LIFE—TO LOVE AND BE LOVED – GEORGE SAND

WHEN YOU’RE IN LOVE YOU CAN’T FALL ASLEEP BECAUSE REALITY IS FINALLY BETTER THAN YOUR DREAMS – DR. SEUS

YOU COME TO LOVE NOT BY FINDING THE PERFECT PERSON, BUT BY SEEING AN IMPERFECT PERSON PERFECTLY – SAM KEEN

THE BEST AND MOST BEAUTIFUL THINGS IN THE WORLD CANNOT BE SEEN OR EVEN TOUCHED. THEY MUST BE FELT WITH THE HEART – HELLEN KELLER

IN DREAMS AND IN LOVE THERE ARE NO IMPOSSIBILITIES – JANOS ARNAY

DO I LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL, OR ARE YOU BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE I LOVE YOU? – OSCAR HAMMERSTEIN II

WHERE THERE IS LOVE THERE IS LIFE – MOHANDAS K. GANDHI

IN THE ARTHMETIC OF LOVE, ONE PLUS ONE EQUALS EVERYTHING, AND TWO MINUS ONE EQUALS NOTHINGS – MIGNON MCLAUGHLIN

THE HARDEST THING TO DO IS WATCH THE ONE YOU LOVE, LOVES SOMEONE ELSE – ANONYMOUS

IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME KNOW. IF NOT, PLEASE LET ME GO – ANONYMOUS

FALLING IN LOVE IS AWFULLY SIMPLE, BUT FALLING OUT OF LOVE IS SIMPLY AWFUL – ANONYMOUS

LOVE IS AN EMOTION EXPERIENCED BY THE MANY AND ENJOYED BY THE FEW – GEORGE JEAN NATHAN

LOVE IS AS MUCH AN OBJECT AS AN OBSESSION, EVERYBODY WANTS IT, EVERYBODY SEEKS IT, BUT FEW EVER ACHIEVE IT, THOSE WHO DO WILL CHERISH IT, BE LOST IN IT, AND AMONG ALL, NEVER FORGET IT – CURTIS JUDALET

WHEN THE POWER OF LOVE OVERCOMES THE LOVE OF POWER, THEN THERE WILL BE TRUE PEACE - SRI CHIN MOI GOSH

IT IS NOT A LACK OF LOVE, BUT A LACK OF FRIENDSHIP THAT MAKES UNHAPPY MARRIAGES - FRIEDRICH NIETZSCHE

LIFE IS LIKE A PHONE CALL WITH A LOVED ONE. WHEN IT IS CUT SHORT, WE REALIZE HOW MUCH OF IT WE HAVE WASTED - KLBSEAGUL

BEING DEEPLY LOVED BY SOMEONE GIVES YOU STRENGHT, WHILE LOVING SOMEONE DEEPLY GIVES YOU COURAGE - LAO TZU

ESSENTIAL EXPRESSIONS

Essential Expresions

1.GREETING

+Hello!
+Hi !
+Good morning!
+Good day!
+Good afternoon!
+ Good evening!
+Good night!
+How are you?
+How are things?
+How are things at home?
+How's life?
+How do you do?
+ How are you getting on?
+How are you keeping?
+How's life treating you?
+ What are you up to these days?
+ Very well ,thank you.
+Fine, thanks.
+ Pretty well,thanks.
+ Good thanks.
+ O.K.thanks.
+Not so bad,thanks.
+Allow me to introduce my self.
+ My name is..........
+ May I introduce you to.........
+ Do you know each other?
+ Have you met before?
+ I' m glad to see you.
+ It' s a pleasure to meat you.
+ I didn' t expect to see you here?
+ I haven' t seen you for along time.
+What are surprise to see you!
+We must keep in touch.
+ Don' t forget us.
+ How is your  father ( mother. sister)?
+ Is he all right?
+ Well, what is it?
+ What's wrong?
+ What's the matter?
+ Is anything happened?
+ What happened?
+ What brings you here?

Essential Expressions

2 .CONGRATULATIONS

+Happy new year!
+Happy feast   Day!
+Happy anniversary!
+Many happy returns of of the day!
+Marry Christmas!
+Happy Birtday!
+Have a nice sleep!
+Have a nice dream!
+Have a good trip!
+Congratulations!
+Congratulations on passing your exams!
+Congratulations on your success!
+Congratulations on the birth of your son.
+Congratulations on your promotion.
+Congratulations on getting a new job.
+Congratulations to you.
+Congratulations on your getting tittle.
+Congratulations on your appointment as president.
+Congratulations on your nomination as a captain.
+Congratulations on your escape.
+I convey my congratulations to you.
+Please accept my congratulations.
+My heartiest congratulations to you.
+Congratulations on your passing in your written examinations.
+Congratulations on your appointment as a main director.
+Congratulations on your success a proffessor.

Essential Expressions

3. PARTINGS

+Good bye! Bey Bey !
+Cheerio(h)!
+So long !
+See you.
+See you later.
+See you soon.
+See you around.
+See you tonight.
+See you tomorrow morning.
+Till we meet again.
+Good luck.
+Best of luck.
+God bless you! Bless you !
+May God bless you.
+Remember me to Ongso.
+Give my love yo Nora.
+Give my regards to him.
+Please remember me to your mother.
+Please give my kind regards to your sister.
+Please send my best love to your aunt.

Essential Expression

4.EXCUSES
+ I'm sorry.
+I'm so sorry.
+ Please pardon me.
+I beg your pardon.
+May excused?
+For get it!
+ I'm sorry you're ill.
+I'm sorry for you.
+For give me,please.

MENARA KUDUS

Menara Kudus Mosque The unique Hindu-Buddhist Majapahit style minaret of the Kudus Mosque with the Mogul-style building. The Menara Kudus Mosque or Al-Aqsha Mosque is located in Kudus in the Indonesian province of Central Java. Dating from 1549, it is one of the oldest mosques in Indonesia, built at the time of Islam's spread through Java.

[1] The mosque preserves the tomb of Sunan Kudus, one of the nine Islamic saints of Java (the Wali Sanga), and it is a popular pilgrimage point.

[2] Architecture It preserves pre-Islamic architectural forms such as old Javanese split doorways, ancient Hindu-Buddhist influenced Majapahit-style red brickwork, and a three-tired pyramindal roof.

[2] The most unusual feature is the brick minaret on which a pavilion shelters a large skin drum (bedug) which is used to summon the faithful to prayer instead of the more common muezzin. Whereas a bedug normally hangs under the eaves of a mosque verandah, in the Kudus Mosque it sits in a tower like a Balinese Hindu temple kul-kul or signal drum used to warn of impending attack, fire, or communal event. No other mosque in Java is known to have a drum tower of this type.

[3] In front of the minaret and around the compound are walls and gateways in the old candi bentar (split gate) and kori agung (main gate) styles. Inside are two gateways—a smaller, inner gate with relief panels on either side similar to those found in Mantingan, and an outer gate that is reminiscent of the 14th-century Bajang Ratu gate at Trowulan. Other pre-Islamic touches include 8 kala[disambiguation needed]-head water spouts in the ablution area and Ming procelain plates set in the walls.

[3] The pre-Islamic elements suggest the complex has incorporated a pre-existing Hindu-Javanese structure. The mosque has been rebuilt several times removing evidence of what the original structure looked like. The Majapahit style gates, walls, and minaret that appear so incongruous today may have blended more harmoniously with the main structure (which probably had a meru roof supported by large pillars, as in Cirebon and Demak).

[3] The peaked roof is a 1920s renovation with terracotta tiles replacing wooden tiles, with glass windows inserted between the roof tiers.

The roof is topped with a mastaka crown roof element.

[2] An inscription over the mihrab says the mosque was founded by Ja'far Shodiq in AH 956 (AD 1549). He is believed to be the venerated Sunan Kudus one of the nine Islamic saints of Java (Wali Sanga) who lies buried in an elaborately carved mausoleum behind the mosque.
[3) The complex includes a Mogul-style mosque with a silvery onion-dome and concrete pillars.
[3] The tower and domed mosque main building.
The bedug drum in the pavilion atop the menara (minaret). Majapahit style split gate and red brickwork Mosque gate (Pintu gerbang) Cemetery (Makam) See alsoEdit Indonesian architecture Mosques in Indonesia External linksEdit 25 images at archnet.

References

Turner, Peter (November 1995). Java. Melbourne: Lonely Planet. pp. 78–79. ISBN 0-86442-314-4. ^ a b c Schoppert, P., Damais, S., Java Style, 1997, Didier Millet, Paris, p. 207, ISBN 962-593-232-1 ^ a b c d e Miksic, John. in Java - Periplus Adventure Guide. Periplus Editions 1997. pp. 246-247 ISBN 962-593-244-5 ^ Ricklefs, M.C. (1991). A History of Modern Indonesia since c.1300, 2nd Edition. London: MacMillan. p. 38. ISBN 0-333-57689-6.

SUNAN KUDUS

Sunan Kudus

Sunan Kudus (or Ja'far Shadiq, died 1550), founder of Kudus, is considered to be one of the Wali Sanga of Java, Indonesia He is said to have originated the wayang golek,[1] and founded the masjid at Kudus using (it is said) the doors from the palace of Majapahit.

He was born Jaafar As-Sadiq, the son of Sunan Ngudung and Syarifah (sibling of Sunan Bonang), thus the grandson of Sunan Ampel. It is said that he was a son of an Egyptian sultan who migrated to Java. In the Sultanate of Demak, he was appointed commander of the army. He went forth with Sultan Prawata, battling against Adipati Jipang, Arya Penangsang.

He learned a lot from Sunan Kalijaga and apply most of the methods in dawah taught by Kalijaga. Kudus then fled to Central Java to the most empty place there such as Sragen, Simo and also Gunung Kidul. He was so tolerant to the local culture and even more softer than the other wali up to the point that if someone said to have be having difficulty making dawah in Kudus they will refer back to Sunan Kudus as the most successful person in this area. He makes good use of the symbols appeared in Hinduism and Buddhism and manifested it into architecture especially mosques, minarets, entrance gates and ablutions symbolizing the Noble Eightfold Path of Buddhism. On one occasion he deliberately called the locals to listen to his sermon by tying his cow named "Sapi Gumarang" in the mosque courtyard, the Hindus whom revered cows as their deity soon became sympathetic after listening to the explanation made by him in Sura al-Baqara. Up until then those people in Kudus refuse to slaughter bulls and cows because of their ancient beliefs in the sanctity of cows. Sunan Kudus also compiled stories on tawhid into series and made the crowd became enthusiastic in listening to those stories. This is the Javanese version of 1001 Arabian Nights prior to The Book of One Thousand and One Nights during the Abassid Caliphate.

VEGETARIAN PREGNANCY

A Vegetarian Pregnancy

Many vegetarian women worry about the effect their diet may have on their developing baby during pregnancy. However, with careful meal planning, there may be no need for concern. "Vegetarian diets during pregnancy can provide the mother and baby with all the proper nutrients they need," says Rachele Dependahl, RD, a dietitian at Cedars-Sinai Medical Group in Beverly Hills, Calif.

Dependahl, herself a pregnant "pescatarian" (a vegetarian who eats fish), worried that she would get carnivorous cravings during her pregnancy, but the opposite happened. "Meat has been more of a turnoff than it has been in the past," she says.

Pregnancy and the Vegetarian Diet

The Pros There are many positive aspects to maintaining a vegetarian diet during pregnancy. For instance, vegetarian sources of protein are easier on the kidneys. And being a vegetarian can help keep tooth decay — a common problem during pregnancy — at bay.

In addition, vegetarian eating, in general, lowers the risk of the following conditions: Obesity Hypertension Constipation Heart disease Type 2 diabetes Cancer Gallstones Another plus to being a vegetarian, says Martha K. Grodrian, RD, a nutrition therapist at Good Samaritan Hospital in Dayton, Ohio, is that "most vegetarian women eat fewer junk foods and a more nutritious diet.

" Pregnancy and the Vegetarian Diet
The Cons While maintaining a vegetarian diet during pregnancy can be a healthy option, it requires a little more effort.

"It may take more work and effective meal planning to follow a vegetarian diet that is healthy during pregnancy," says Grodrian.
"In general, the more foods a vegetarian omits from the diet, the more difficult it is to meet nutrient needs.

" However, dietary supplements may be able to fill the void.

A lacto-ovo vegetarian (one who also eats dairy and eggs) can get all the nutrients she needs for a healthy pregnancy through diet and a multivitamin/mineral supplement.

A vegan, on the other hand, who avoids all animal products, will need to take supplements of vitamin B12 and iron and might want to take calcium, zinc, and vitamin D, too.

Pregnancy and the Vegetarian Diet

Nutritional Guidelines Nutritional guidelines for pregnant vegetarians are the same as for non-vegetarian women who are expecting.

"All pregnant women need additional iron, calcium, folate, essential fatty acids such as DHA (which can be obtained in a vegetarian form), zinc, protein, and 200 to 300 calories more than pre-pregnancy," says Grodrian.

Specifically, pregnant vegetarians should consume the following: 6 to 11 servings per day of bread, cereal, rice, and pasta (choosing whole grain when possible) four to five servings per day of vegetables four or more servings of fruits eight servings of milk and milk alternatives (one cup of cooked kidney beans as a milk alternative, for instance) three to four servings of beans and bean alternatives two servings of omega-3 fats for DHA (found in flaxseed oil, walnuts, tofu, and omega-3 fortified eggs, among other places) Fats, sweets, and junk food should be eaten sparingly, and pregnant women should be careful to avoid the following foods: Unpasteurized soft cheeses (such as brie, Camembert, and feta) and unpasteurized milk, because they carry the risk of listeriosis (a food-borne illness caused by bacteria).

Raw vegetable sprouts and fresh unpasteurized fruit and vegetable juices, which can contain bacteria like E. coli and salmonella.

Even though it may take a little more effort, following a vegetarian diet while pregnant can be healthy. "My pescaterian diet has been easy to sustain," says Dependahl. "I have not faced any challenges, because I love eating vegetables, tofu, eggs, dairy, and fish."

THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING

Positive thinking is a mental attitude that admits into the mind thoughts, words and images that are conductive to growth, expansion and success. It is a mental attitude that expects good and favorable results.

A positive mind anticipates happiness, joy, health and a successful outcome of every situation and action. Whatever the mind expects, it finds. Many have heard it said that another person cannot make you happy. The happiness will come from within you. Being confident is a choice and it will produce positive emotions. There has been much research done on being in a positive state. It will produce a sense of well-being and has even proven to have multiple health benefits. Successful living today being positive will change your life.

The way that someone feels about themselves shows in the way they act. They always find funny things in everyday life that makes them and others happy. There is joy and cheerfulness that just rubs off on the people who are around them. The way they feel shows in their life because they are more relaxed and sleep better at night. They are not only physically assured but mentally as well. Most people have a spiritual connection that gives them the confident mindset in life.

People who have a confident mindset take full advantage of their work force. They go in everyday with a smile on their face and the confidence that they have the ability to handle anything that comes their way. Their ability to take responsibility and not to blame others when something goes wrong shows that they have a handle on life.

Negative emotions have no place with them on their way to success. Confidence is so much better than looking back and thinking of what could have been. Confident people are ones that you want to be around because they make the most of the present and look forward to the future. They are in awe of the beauty of nature and good things around them. This behavior comes from choosing the atmosphere that one is around. It is best to surround yourself with assured people that are upbeat and thinking good thoughts. Try to avoid negative news and thinking on unpleasant things. This will be to your advantage in building the blocks in your life of thinking of good wholesome thoughts.

Positive and negative thinking are both contagious. All of us affect, in one way or another, the people we meet. This happens instinctively and on a subconscious level, through thoughts and feelings transference, and through body language. People sense our aura and are affected by our thoughts, and vice versa. Is it any wonder that we want to be around positive people and avoid negative ones? People are more disposed to help us if we are positive, and they dislike and avoid anyone broadcasting negativity.

Negative thoughts, words and attitude bring up negative and unhappy moods and actions. When the mind is negative, poisons are released into the blood, which cause more unhappiness and negativity. This is the way to failure, frustration and disappointment.

Becoming a Positive Example to All Being positive, doing the right things and thinking the right things will produce the kind of behavior that is an example to all. It will be an encouragement to those around you and an example that they can follow. Watching your confident living will help those with negative tendencies to change the way they think. If it changes the course of their lives you have done a great thing. Being careful of the things we say also will manifest how we act. Our conversation should be complimentary and uplifting. Being tolerant of others is another advantage of being confident. We will not always be treated in the manner that is right. We are not responsible for the negative way that people treat us, but we are responsible for how we react to it.

A positive person will realize that sometimes people are a product of their environment. Maybe they didn't have all of the advantages that you did. The right thing to do is to act in a positive way. It is always positive to think of others. Contributing in positive ways leads to an eternal happiness.